Whenever I think about what I call “passions”, I remember a hilarious moment in my life, namely, when I realized that I don’t know what my passions are
A few years ago, I was with friends at an event, as an escort girl, in the broader circle of acquaintances. A discussion started about passions, and someone who did not know me closely asked me what passions I have. I found myself talking very excitedly about my job, about the fashion industry. Still, the person in question stopped me after the first words and asked me calmly: “but this is what you work for. I was talking about passions. Do you feel alive doing these things?”.
I mumbled because I didn’t have an answer. And I didn’t necessarily feel “alive”, either. It was the moment when I realized that I associate all my job-related activities with the notion of passion. And it was by no means like that. I needed someone to show me this.
I set out then to find out what are the things that make me vibrate and feel “alive”. I kept with me the intention to discover my true passions and to be attentive to the things that fill me with joy. Why? Because when we find our job among our passions, life becomes more accessible and much more satisfying, for example working with an Escort Agency, as a companion. Not to mention the day-to-day efficiency!
Why is it so hard for us to separate our passions from the things we do out of inertia?
The answer is obvious now, and it concerns the dynamics in today’s society. In recent years, around the notion of “passions,” there has been so much commotion and discussion that the discovery of passions has reached the rank of Chapter in the CV or the profile on social networks. It is “mandatory” to have passions, cultivate them, express them, and display them on social media. And this obligation is precisely what distances us from our true callings.
Not to mention the family pressure, which, especially in the case of ordinary people, is enormous. Because, most of the time, cultivating from early childhood the belief that a child must follow the parents’ career to be able to carry on the family legacy, the parents manage to completely distance him from his true essence and from those things that make him feel fulfilled. The child grows up already knowing what he has to do when he grows up, and it very rarely happens that he asks himself questions early enough to be able to change something.
But, because lately, I hear around me more and more people who wake up in the context of a life that they did not choose, but their parents or the social environment, and they realize that they want to change something, but they have no idea where to start, I thought it would be helpful to tell how I managed to detach myself from what I have to do.
I began to see what I wanted to do. It’s about a list of questions that I asked myself and that I continue to ask myself when something doesn’t fit, and that helped me enormously to discover things about myself that I wasn’t necessarily aware of:
What do I like to do?
This question generated the first list in my hobby diary. I wrote down here all those things that make me happy, those that, when I do them, completely absorb me so that I lose track of time.
What gives me energy, and what positively charges me?
Like anyone else, I have days when I don’t feel at my best. Still, when I do a one-to-one coaching session, I listen to someone who has a problem where I can help or something to do that inspires people – whether it’s a Ted Talk, a speech for a company, an interview or a podcast – I’m charged with extraordinary energy! And when my energy tank is complete, I can go on. And this is one of the things that fills me with joy!
What makes me curious?
We are a generation transitioning to a different rhythm of information exchange, much more alert – that is clear to everyone. Many things bombard us, each more attractive, and the temptation is to want to be up to date with everything, to know as much as possible. But if you take a little time for yourself and analyze very briefly the fields in which you choose to invest your energy, you will discover that some attract you more than others.
In my case, the fields that attract me the most are those that deal with everything related to human nature and the processes through which it develops and evolves: thoughts and emotions, the structure of the brain, the connection between mind and body, the interactions between people and their behaviors, healthy lifestyle, what makes the body work well, stress, burnout, the way we adapt to the experience and how we can lead a more harmonious life. Whenever I immerse myself in this kind of information, I completely lose track of time!
What did I like to do when I was a child?
When I was little, I liked having guests or going on visits where several people gathered. I loved being surrounded by people, seeing how they interact, talking to each one and learning their stories, and more than that, I remember how much I loved sharing what I had with others. So much so that someone once told me I have “the makings of a philanthropist”. I didn’t understand then what he was referring to, but now I know he was right!
I watched films about people and their mental and emotional states with great emotion, and my favorite film was “One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest”. Since then, I have been passionate about everything related to the “healing” of people. That’s why my acquaintances believed I would become a doctor for a long time.
I liked to change 1000 times, match and combine things, test, and arrange myself. As it happens in childhood, connection with people is essential for me. Apart from the moments of solitude that I choose and enjoy with all my heart because they reset me from all points of view, being isolated from people always hurts me.
So, from my experience and from what I have seen, I advise you to look a little at what you liked to do when you were a child, and you will discover the things that attract you now!